Two recent incidents made me ponder the connection between the emotional mind and the logical mind. In my case, I felt awful emotionally, but logically, I knew I shouldn’t feel that way. So, how do you deal with the struggle of “how you feel” vs. “how you think you should feel?” Not being able to control my feelings of pain and anguish was very stressful. I pride myself on being able to control my feelings and when I can’t, I get very distraught and/or pissed off. I know what to do, why can’t I do it?
With that being said, how does one go about connecting the emotional brain with the logical brain? Without the connection, I fear that I and others will continue to struggle with situations that do not warrant a painful emotional reaction.
What I have recently learned about making the connection:
- Instead of reacting immediately with “whose fault is this,” “where did I screw up,” etc. I need to pause and attempt to evaluate the facts as they are, not how I perceive them.
- Resist the urge to find an immediate solution to the problem, e.g. sending an e-mail, asking unanswerable questions, etc.
- Take the time to consider the possible outcomes and evaluate the level of concern they TRULY deserve.
- Consider the possibility that X happened so Y could be discovered.
- Making a strong consistent connection between my emotional brain and my logical brain is a process. It is something I have to work on every day, even if it is for a minute of two.
Why is the “connection” important?
- Without it, First Responders will make rash decisions that could cost them their life and/or career.
- Without it, First Responders will suffer unnecessary internal strife.
If you have experienced a similar situation, please let me know at firstname.lastname@example.org